Changing Your Self Image

let's talk about you for a second0:02specifically let's talk about your0:03self-image because your self-image is0:06the mental representation that you have0:08of yourself and it's critical in0:11deriving your behavior and so if you0:14want to change something in your life0:16I think it's really important to reflect0:18on the self image that you all to0:19yourself and the new one that you want0:22to cultivate because if you don't a lot0:25of times it becomes a source of sabotage0:27me give you an example that I mean just0:29so often I working people are they have0:32lost weight in the past until I asked0:34Miffy know we lost the weight but then0:36you put it back on you know what0:37happened and very often I'll hear0:39something to the effect of like just0:41didn't feel like myself and this is0:44really a perfect example of what it's0:46like when you dont cultivate a new0:48self-image to go along with your new0:50behaviors in your new results in a lot0:52of times this is what creates that0:54feeling of attention within you or that0:56feeling the rebellion rebellious miss0:58that a lot of people on diets feel they1:00know they want to lose weight they feel1:01is some part of them that is driving in1:04the wrong direction and so a lot of1:06times that your old self image if you1:08define yourself as say an overeater it's1:12very difficult to define yourself that1:13way and then all the sudden start acting1:15totally different going to create the1:17tension and usually the cell phone is1:20ultimately going to win so what do you1:22do the things that to remember first1:24office that so often the self-image we1:26hold of ourselves is not something that1:28we sat down and designed intentionally1:30it's something that we just kind of you1:33know except absorbed from different1:36experiences we had environment have been1:37people we know and so it's important to1:40stand it no matter what self-image you1:42all to yourself1:43you were always more than that you're1:45always more than that self-image you1:47hold so for example we go to someone who1:49define themselves as an overeater maybe1:51they are having eat over even the past1:54but they're much more than that in1:55certain other areas of life guarantee1:57they have willpower they have control1:58they have the ability to manage2:00themselves and so if they have that2:03ability in other areas they are not just2:05you know an overeater that's just one2:08behavior they have2:09and so you do not want to find yourself2:10that way and so when I first began2:13working with people when people go2:15through my program we always start with2:17beginning to find a self image that you2:19want to have2:20ok so we don't be fantastical great so2:23it's not like myself and with all the2:26mother and the seven-foot basketball2:27player2:28I'm not we want to keep an idealistic2:30though what use the ideal version of you2:33right you as you know yourself as a2:35person what's that ideal version you2:38again if I may overreach sometimes but2:41then other situations that a lot of2:43control you know they have a lot of big2:45ability to get themselves to take action2:47so we want to utilize that we want to2:49pay attention that and bring that into a2:52new self-image and cultivate who we want2:55to be as much as we are just trying to2:58change what were behaving that what2:59we're doing okay and i think this is the3:02missing piece a lot of people's people3:05questioned change is they're just trying3:07to force themselves to add a new way3:08it's obvious you suggest that you do3:10both at the same time3:12yeah change your behaviour for sure i'll3:14be at the same time begin to think about3:16the person you want to be right how you3:18want to find yourself right who you are3:21because again you you're much more than3:23you divide that we're all more than we'd3:25find ourselves at the odd mark on3:27quality than just that and um again that3:31the thing understands that self-images3:32their global that we have kind of just3:34global general ideas ourselves and then3:36we have specific self-images in specific3:39situations and so we want to pay3:41attention to those so what I would3:43suggest to you is whatever area of your3:45life you'd like to make some changes and3:47start by understanding what tell him to3:50hold yourself right what you believe3:51about yourself in that area then ask the3:54question where that believe come from3:55either well-founded it's just some idea3:59you you picked up along the way is it4:01something you picked up because you have4:0312 experiences4:04hey and then begin defining to yourself4:07who do you want to be anyone's cell4:09phone if you want to have how do you4:11want to find yourself and begin to craft4:14and cultivate the the person who you4:15want to be and again from the inside out4:18as well as from outside4:19you want you want to affect both at the4:21same time ok so so think about that a4:24little time to reflect on it and I think4:26you'll find that it's a worthwhile4:27exercise to do okay to do that4:32[Music]